The Pursuit of Happyness-Tell the post-90s about Marx (6)

　

　　On June 19th, 1843, in the northeast of Trier, there was a small town called Cloots Nah. There was a simple and solemn wedding in a Protestant church. The groom’s name is Marx and the bride’s name is Yan Ni. The town where they got married, Kroc Nahe, is located at the intersection of the Rhine River and the Nar River. The scenery is pleasant, quiet and natural, and the hot springs are especially famous. Marx and Yan Ni, newlyweds, don’t mention how happy they are. The two spent a rare short honeymoon in and around the hot spring town.

　　It is said that behind every successful man stands a great woman, and Marx is no exception. In particular, a man like him who has been in exile all his life and is poor and indomitable only for the revolutionary cause and lofty ideals in his heart, if there is no one around who knows, loves, understands and supports him, we may really be unable to imagine.

　　IChildren can at least say with relief that Marx is lucky in love.He met his beloved Yan Ni when he was young, and they were childhood friends. Their love may not be earth-shattering, unforgettable, and they have been worried about tomorrow’s daily necessities, but the sufferings and smoke of the 19th century can’t blow away their mutual affection and affection, and it is only through physical illness and death that they are truly separated.

　　It is said that adversity can only see the true feelings. Today, our lives are getting richer and our choices are becoming more and more diverse, but we often leave when we walk. Shallow love can’t compete with wealth and splendor, and running can’t win like water. I would like to ask, if there is a person who can stay with you when you are poorest and have nothing, what is the hypocritical reason to part ways with him/her? Today, we will talk about the love and marriage of the great Marx.

　　such asIf modern love experts judge Marx, he may be a master of chasing girls. In a relationship, all the obstacles you can think of, such as the age gap, getting along in different places, the wrong family, and the unstable economic foundation, were all hit by Marx. Yan Ni is four years older than Max, so Marx is talking about a "sister-in-law relationship".

　　Yan Ni, with a distinguished family background and a well-known family background, gradually became graceful and graceful with her age, and she was recognized as the "queen dancer" on the stage of Trier City. Such a star-studded "Bai Fumei" was also called a "popular lover" at that time, and many famous children and handsome young people lined up to fall at her feet. Marx is one of the masses, and the budding love is like a burning flame, which ignites the little heart of this warm-blooded young man. When he showed his love to Jenny von westphalen in fear and trembling, he could hardly believe that Yan Ni had accepted his admiration, and the two young people who were in tune secretly married for life.

　　In fact, the 19th century German society was not as open and reasonable as we thought, and the love between Marx and Yan Ni was not valued by people, including their families. On the one hand, Yan Ni’s brother always thinks that she should marry a lieutenant or a nobleman with a title, perhaps because of the difference in family status. On the other hand, parents’ views are always more pragmatic. At that time, Marx was only 18 years old and was still in the school stage. An unemployed man had no economic foundation to take care of his future bride. At that time, Germans, like most of us now, thought that marriage should not be considered at all until they found a job to support their families. In addition, "brother-sister love" was also considered shameful at that time, which violated the inherent view of the world on male identity standards and the norms of gender relations. Therefore, their love is interpreted by their families as a rare and strong rebellious behavior.

　　afterThere is an interesting saying that Karl Marx opposed it for the first time by proposing marriage before all radical revolutionary ideas and communist theories were really formed.19Bourgeois society in the 21st century.

　　Like most suitors, although Marx was firm in his feelings, he was not stupid, but he still adopted some clever routines to contribute to the final success. For example, Yan Ni’s father, westfalen Sr, was first conquered by Marx, who was full of praise for the talent of his future son-in-law, calling Marx "an excellent, noble and outstanding" young man. And Yan Ni is also a woman who has a lot of pursuits and ideas. In her eyes, Marx loves learning, is full of wisdom, and is a person who can be relied on for life. In modern society, this concept of choosing a spouse, which regards wealth as a cloud, family status as dust, and talent, value and concept as the first choice, may also be laughed at as silly and naive, but it is her firm choice that has made this beautiful marriage.

　　Later, we all know that with Marx’s efforts and Yan Ni’s understanding, the young couple finally broke through social prejudice and succeeded hand in hand. But from the establishment of love relationship to marriage, the two of them did not go smoothly.

　　Marx didn’t go to college in Trier, so he and Yan Ni experienced an option that is especially not recommended in today’s love book — — Long-distance love This is a very big test. When Marx was in college, he seldom went home, and he didn’t see Yan Ni for a year. You can’t guess the main tool for young lovers to maintain their feelings, that is, writing letters.

　　In that era when there was no computer, no mobile phone, no WeChat, no Weibo and no way to FACETIME,Marx wrote countless poems full of love and passion for his beloved girl, which were compiled into two Books of Love and a Book of Songs by later generations. Yan Ni kept these poems for life, and their daughter Laura later wrote, "My father didn’t value them; But whenever parents talk about them, they always laugh at these absurd behaviors when they were young. "

　　In fact, when you really enter the world of Marx’s poetry, you will be impressed by his majestic words, and it seems that you can empathize with his passionate and sincere feelings for Yan Ni when you read it. For example, he wrote like this:

　

　　We read these gorgeous and powerful poems, does it make your eyes shine? This is not the Marx I know! Indeed, Marx’s literary attainments are very high, which is closely related to his amazing reading. What is more commendable is that the pattern of his love poems is very large and amazing. He will often integrate love and ideal, will and career, aesthetics and cognition in his poems. For example, he once wrote such a love poem:

　　Facing the whole treacherous world,

　　I will choose the war without mercy,

　　Let the world collapse,

　　It can’t put out the flame by itself.

　　Then I’ll be like God,

　　Walking on the ruins of this universe;

　　Every word I say is action,

　　I am the creator of earthly life.　

　　Although these poems seem immature, there are many flashes of thought between the lines besides overflowing love for Yan Ni, which laid a very solid foundation for him to move towards philosophy and speculation in the future. In fact, the communication habit between Marx and Yan Ni has been kept until they got married for decades, and they still wrote letters without interruption. Finally, in the dreary 1840s, the love between two young people is like a peony in a hundred flowers garden, which is in bud and ushers in a colorful tomorrow.

　　In addition to their deep feelings, Yan Ni and Marx have a very consistent spiritual pursuit. Their dissatisfaction with reality, sympathy for the working masses and unshakable belief in the revolution are the value basis of this relationship. Yan Ni is the mother of Marx’s lover, wife and children, and also his most loyal comrade-in-arms. Does love have a shelf life? What kind of love can make people have a lifetime? Modern people may say that every day is a Valentine’s Day, but for Marx and Yan Ni, the answer is probably not so. The best love is not a material match, but a spiritual match. In modern society, a lot of people will narrowly understand the matching of property and social status. In fact, the most important thing is the consistency of values.

　　After the wedding trip, Marx’s friend Lugar invited Marx and his wife to Paris and invited Marx to be the editor-in-chief of the German-French Yearbook. Marx has a particularly deep affection for France, because he listened to his father recite the works of French thinkers such as Rousseau and Voltaire from an early age, and at the same time Marx received the education and edification of excellent German classical philosophy. After all, Marx lived in Germany for 25 years. Therefore, when Lugar invited Marx to compile and publish a journal that accommodated the social and ideological trends of France and Germany at the same time, Marx almost agreed without hesitation. Unexpectedly, this trip opened the colorful movement of thought, and Marxism was born.

　　-Ben finished-